Sibling Rivalry

I always argue with my siblings!!!!
You know, there is not a day where we live in peace without having an argument. We always exchange harsh words and it always end up, someone getting hurt. We sometimes get in to the action, like smacking each other. There was this instance where my younger sister and I fought because of something we both said, and the fight even reached its peak when “one of us” (because I can’t remember who), picked up a knife. Honestly, I forgot what we were fighting about and besides that happened ages ago; my younger sister didn’t even remember it. That’s history now!
Well, my younger sister and I were not the only ones who engage in a brutal fight; well, that’s the understatement of the year! Sometimes my younger sister and I were provoked to have an argument with our elder siblings too: that is our older sister and our older brother. I don’t know why we are stranded in this never ending loop of fights, but I think it has something to do with CMM. Don’t you think?
In Pearce and Cronen’s theory called Coordinated Management of Meaning, it says that person-in-conversation co-construct their own social realities and are simultaneously shaped by the worlds they create.
I see now, why my siblings and I always argue. Maybe the social realities that we create are different from each other and it gradually shapes who we are as a person, that’s why we have our own ideas about the world and we have our own individualities. Wait, does this mean that the more different our social realities are, the more chance of us arguing all the time?
Well, according to CMM, not exactly. It says that this intentional of meshing of stories lived does not require people to achieve coherence in the meaning of their joint action; they can decide to coordinate their behavior without sharing a common interpretation of the event.
So, does that prove that it doesn’t matter how different we are as a person and we can still coordinate without arguing? I think so….
It also says in CMM that, in a dialogic communication, we reaffirmed that dialogue requires remaining in the tension between holding our own perspective and being profoundly open to others who are unlike us, and enabling others to act similarly.
I think that my siblings and I may have a different perspective of the world, we may have our differences but it doesn’t stop us to have a decent conversation without the need to argue, we just have to stay open with each others perspective but we need not lose our own.
So it is possible for my siblings and me to live in one roof without actually killing each other in the end…Well, now that’s the overstatement of the century!
CMM really held on to its aim to function as peacemakers, “providing a way of intelligently joining into the activity of the world so as to enrich it.”
Maybe Pearce and Cronen, guessed it right that we can work together without chaos ever occurring. I think that’s what the world really needs right now; working together with peace, harmony, and communicate rather than making irrational decisions. Yes, that’s a bit of a cliché thing to say but that’s what we really need in order for us to live together in this world full of misunderstandings.
Our world may not be perfect right now but we can still try; we can try to make our world a better place. In the end the way we communicate with other people is the key to help create a higher quality of life.
Oh yeah, I give the credit to Pearce and Cronen for their wonderful work and for trying to make the world a place which we can actually live without misunderstandings. Personally, they made me more interested about studying communication; they made me realize that studying communication does not only involves being familiar with its process but it does involves concern for the social relationship of all people in the world. Actually, as a communication student we can make the world a better place…..seriously I’m not joking….